“ I Honestly Don’t Care About How You Feel” Dede Fires Back at Kola – BBNaija Season 10.
“ I Honestly Don’t Care About How You Feel” Dede Fires Back at Kola – BBNaija Season 10.
Tensions rose in the Big Brother Naija house as Kola and Dede had a heart-to-heart that left viewers glued to their screens..
It started with Kola trying to clarify his position: “I never came here telling you that I want a relationship, I never made it seem like I was trying to date you.”
But Dede wasn’t buying the defensive tone. “Why does it sound like you’re explaining yourself? Please tell me what you’ve heard, because right now I don’t even think we’re having a real conversation.”
Kola explained that it was because Dede often acted like he wasn’t clear enough when he spoke. When she asked if that was truly how he felt, he replied simply: “Yeah, it’s a feeling.” Dede gave him an “alright,” but Kola pressed on, admitting that in front of everyone, he ends up looking like a fool.
Dede, clearly frustrated, cut him short: “Okay Kola, can we stop here? I honestly don’t care about how you feel. And this ‘world is watching’ thing, I’m getting tired of it.”
Still, Kola insisted: “All I’m trying to say is, from the start I never claimed that you told me you liked me.”
“Good,” Dede replied.
Kola continued: “So I’ve never expected you to go out of your way for me or act like I’m special.”
“Good,” she echoed again.
Then came a softer side from Kola: “But at the same time, I felt like we were building a level of comfort with each other.”
“True,” Dede admitted.
Kola pointed back to the past weekend: “What happened on Sunday was messed up, and that’s why I said you should think about it. If you don’t want to be that person for me, I’ll respect it.”
Dede wanted clarity: “Be that person how? Your close person in this house?”
“Exactly,” Kola said. “I can’t force you to be that.”
Dede, showing restraint, responded: “Fine, but let me know when you’re done talking, I don’t want to cut you off.”
Kola sighed: “Honestly, I’ve said enough. Talk.”
And then Dede poured her heart out.
“Look, at the end of the day I’m just a girl. You’re here alone, I’m here alone. You need someone, I need someone too. You’re struggling, I’m struggling. You give, maybe I take too much. Your pain might not be the worst, mine might not be the worst either. Pain is pain, sadness is sadness. It doesn’t matter if yours is bigger or smaller, it still hurts. So don’t think I don’t feel something too.”
She didn’t stop there. Her words cut deep:
“You think it’s hard for you? Try being in my shoes. Try caring about someone intentionally and every move you make still feels wrong. Try carrying someone so gently, so carefully, that it feels like if you loosen your grip, they’ll fall apart but you’re still holding on. That’s where I am, Kola.”
The exchange was raw, vulnerable, and full of emotion. Kola sought clarity; Dede laid bare her truth. In that moment, it wasn’t just a house game it was two humans trying to navigate their struggles in front of millions.